Some time ago, I was part of a yahoo group consisting mostly of NRIs.
There once started a discussion on why most Indian men go back to India in search
of a bride. Here is an interesting response from one of those Indian men from USA:
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You want to really know why? Because here we believe in freedom and all these great values
but when it comes to practice Indo Americans fall short of acting on it or maybe because of
race prevented from becoming these values. As a result, they really just care about the
American dollar. How does this tie in with marriage. Well Indian women see Indian men as
second class citizens here in the states. This country the minute you set forth makes you
very aware that you are not important culturally. The white man here especially dates all
our beautiful Indian women yet the Indian men who want to date anyone have problems because
they have been given an inferiority complex and also often are told that they have never
been seen in good light. Ever seen a white man come up to you when you are with their own
kind quite frequently. Do you see an Indian man approaching an Indian girl who is dating a
white guy. Never they have no balls (well most of them). So the truth of the matter is that
the Indian man is forced to go back to India and marry a woman because his status becomes
so high because he has American dollars now. That is probably the only reason it is so easy
to flock back to India and pickup a wife. Of course any parent from India is going to see
that the guy is a dollar sign. Of course luckily we are so traditional as a culture that
even money doesn’t necessarily become the only glue for the relationship well at least
I want to think so.
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